Anyone can become a rape victim, regardless of place, time or age. Statistics show that in about 80% of cases the victim is familiar with the perpetrator. We must not forget that even if the perpetrator was an acquaintance, a relative, spouse or partner, it is still a crime. Although victims often feel guilty or responsible for the situation, responsibility for the incident always lies with the one who raped. Violence is an aggression and / or violent act whose motivation is anger, a desire to control and humiliate. Rape triggered by sexual desire.
The Repeated Assaults
Many rapists raped repeatedly, this is not a single behavior. Scientists find no evidence that raped women behaved in any other way than non-raped. For example, On our streets you can see a lot of defiantly dressed and defiantly behaving women who are not raped. The criminals themselves confess that they were most likely to be raped when it was more likely that this would not be revealed than depending on the type or behavior of the woman. The latest case is about Peter Cedeno NYC where the divorce lawyer sexually assaulted his client.
Rape causes the victim to fear of death, often paralyzing the ability to think and act. In a rape situation, there is no one and always right or wrong course of conduct. Sometimes the abuser may be frightened by the cry of the victim, sometimes it can, conversely, lead to the fact that physical acts join the sexual violence to silence the victim. Therefore, subsequently there is no point in tormenting yourself with the thought that you could do otherwise. Responsibility for what happened always lies on the rapist.
How can you help yourself?
Believe in yourself. Many victims feel shame after an attack or blame and blame themselves. It is important to remember: you are not guilty of rape. There is no excuse for rape.
No one deserves rape
Tell someone about what happened. Rape is a very intimate injury, and many victims do not tell anyone, even their loved ones, about it. But to bear the experience only in one alone is too much of a burden for the psyche. The ability to feel someone’s support and desire to help can be the most important step towards getting out of a crisis situation. Remember, maybe among your friends there is someone you can trust your story to. If you want to remain anonymous, call an anonymous crisis phone. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Make a list of phone numbers that you can call if you find it difficult and keep it close at hand.
Be patient with yourself. The healing process can be difficult and time consuming. Do not lose hope, even if you “throws” back. If you feel that you need peace and quiet, try to find an opportunity to arrange a rest for a couple of days or try to reduce the load for at least several days. Be sure to try to eat well and sleep. If you have trouble sleeping, self-hypnosis can help. For example, repeat to yourself: I am relaxed and warm, I am safe, tomorrow will be better.